Days become weeks, weeks become months, life begins to blur. We settle in and accept the status quo. “It is what it is” we tell ourselves because it’s all we know. We follow routines. There are slight deviations but for the most part the pattern is nearly identical. We are bored. We daydream about the future – our next vacation, our next evening out, even our next weekend. We fail to enjoy the present. Seize the day, carpe diem, YOLO – these are buzzwords that we say but rarely that we do.
Every few months we vow to change things. We pledge to live each moment like it’s our last. We go out and do something we’ve been wanting to. We call up friends and make plans. We escape the routine with a getaway. But then we let the normal sink back in and life continues to blur by us.
This used to be my life and I just accepted that it was just “the way it is”. Days blurring by, always looking forward to something in the future. Then several things happened. A series of events that cumulatively woke me up. A decade ago my son was born dead and brought back to life. A few years later my wife got a blood clot in her leg which miraculously lodged behind her knee-cap, narrowly preventing it from traveling to her heart, saving her life. A few years thereafter I suffered a scary back injury which I continue to wrestle with each and every day.
All three memories remind me regularly of our mortality, of the fact that any day could be our last. These life experiences have transformed my perspective. I am no longer able to see things the way I did before. Every day that I wake up I have the right to make it my best yet. I have the right to enjoy every opportunity that life presents to me. I have the choice to react positively or negatively to situations that happen around me. I control what I can and I don’t worry about what I can’t. No more autopilot, no more coasting, no more waiting for future events. Today is a great day and I’m going to life it to the max. Once today is gone I can’t get it back.
Take control of your “today”. You’re the only victim if you don’t. Nobody else will do it for you and coasting is for suckers. Don’t wait for a better tomorrow, make today great!